Toddler tantrums can be extremely fierce and sometimes very unexpected!
- Don't lose your cool - most toddler tantrums result in leg kicking, uncontrollable screaming, kicking their legs and a whole lot more. At this time, their ability to reason and listen is at an all-time low so by you yelling, screaming and storming out of the room, the situation is likely to get worse. Try to stay in the room and remain calm, let them learn by example. If you feel the need to leave the room, leave for a few minutes , calm down and re-enter the room when they have stopped crying.
- Be the adult - giving in to their demands seems like the easiest option when you need to end a tantrum, particularly in public. Don't be embarrassed, most parents go through it. Instead, let them learn that a temper fit is not going to get them what they want, otherwise you'll be setting the stage for many future conflicts. Let them know that you are in control.
- Don't punish or reward a tantrum - you want them to know that having a tantrum does not change the situation in any way, whether positive or negative. Everything should be as it was before the tantrum began.
- Time-outs - using a time-out can sometimes really ease an intense tantrum. Don't just leave them and scream and storm off. Try putting them in a quiet or boring room for a few minutes until they calm down and tell them what you are doing "Just sit here for a few minutes and calm down. I will be right over there". Make sure they are safe and do not interact with them during this time.